This is long but i really need some advice..pregnant mom, divorced parents, moms controling bf?

ik its long but PLEASE just read it!! please :(





im 15 my mom is pregnant and my parents are divorced and live in different states. im visiting my dad for the summer and my mom told me just now on the fone that she is giving my cat away that ive had since i was 5 away. she says it isnt good for her health or the baby but ik sooo many people who have had cats during their pregnancies and i told her that and she said when you have a house and a family you can make your own rules but we are getting rid of the cat! and so i said fine if you get rid of the cat then im not coming home.


so then she told me fine w.e your cell fone is getting turned off..it'll be off by tomorrow and dont bother coming back. so i told her if she gave my cat away i would never talk to her again and i really truley mean it because shes taking it to an adoption place where it will have 2 weeks to be bought then they'll kill him!! i feel bad exploding on her since shes pregnant. but she doesnt have the right to just give away my cat like that!!


do you agree with me? idk what to do. all ik is that if i cant keep my cat and she gives it away then im not coming home and im not talking to her anymore.


which i dont mind because i have a very controling ';step dad'; not even technecally hes just my moms bf but he is ALWAYS into my buisness and thinks im some bad kid that does drugs and sleeps around which im not!! idk im sick of it! but i want to come back and live with my mom because i have great friends there and i move so much im just tired of it.


please help me!


thanks for your time. i just realy neeed to hear what other people thinkThis is long but i really need some advice..pregnant mom, divorced parents, moms controling bf?
wow. first of all, i am sorry you are going through this. its crap that stuff like this is happening in our society. now my opinion. i agree with you. idk what your relationship with your mom is, if it has always been like this, but thats just messed up. i would prob get away from that if i were you because 1 a trouble step dad is never good news 2 shes prego and im sorr but it sounds to me like her plan is out with old and in with new. she wants to get rid of your stuff (not even stuff a living pet!) for a bogus reason. maybe she feels you are her last link to your dad and if she replaces and gets rid of you she could move on. sorr . remember just a theory not proven truth. i would talk to her (in a calm, pro, way. don't raise your voice no matter what) and tell her how you feel. if she flips out then i would just finish the talk and be done with her. be careful about your stuff, if she'd get rid of a cat im sure clothes and other personal belongings won't get a 2nd thought. idk if u are in driving distance.This is long but i really need some advice..pregnant mom, divorced parents, moms controling bf?
my mom can be really irrational too at time. you could go bak to your moms house and gather up all your important things and your cat, pack them up, and take them to your dads. your mom might ttry to make amends wit you. you could also try staying at a friends house or something if you dont want to leave. you could try to reason wit your mom by maybe putting your cat in a kennel where you can see her all the time. or you could stay true to your promise and see if your mom tries to fix things wit you first
my mom has threatened to give away my cat before also, tell her if the cat goes you do, and if you love your cat and runaway you can find temporary home to live in until she has the baby, my sister has a cat and shes pregnaut and shes fine and to the person who said its just a cat you dont understand its a cat to you but to the owner its a member of their family, its like your mom giving away your brother and having them killed shes not being selfish at all there are no apologies to be made here the mom is at fault, honestly dont feel bad if your mom does this dont ever talk to her again, no matter how miserable she is, at least let her suffer a few years, as long as you suffer..she also suffers
can you bring the cat to your dad's house for the summer?





if not do whatever you can to convince her.


explain how much the cat means to you and since you've had it for so long it is like family to you.





This cat is important to you, don't give it up like something as trivial as a cell phone. Keep convincing her, she may come to her senses.





But watch out, she may just take it while your out of the house. Protect it if you love it.





Convince her from the heart, she may also be making decisions based on her hormones at the moment. ( IDK her so I can't tell you that for sure).





Good Luck saving your cat, I hope you end up keeping it. =)


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You could aslo ask if she can hold her decision til after the baby is born. She may change her mind after the baby is born.





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You could make a deal and keep the cat in one room away from her and the baby.
So your mom is worried for her health during pregnancy and the health of her baby because of the cat - a very legit concern... but never mind that, it is not good for you so screw them and out come the threats? Lord Kid. I feel so sorry for your mom. You know how tiring it is to have to live with a selfish person? You should call around to see if you can get someone to take the cat for the duration of your mom's pregnancy and then call your mom and apologize up and down for acting the fool. Ask her to give the cat to the temp. home. If that cannot be worked out, the cat should go. It is a cat. Sorry. I know it is hurtful and makes you sad, but anger has no place.





If you want to continue to live with your mom wouldn't the brite girl make herself wanted? Who wants to be around a brat. Do you want your mom to be relieved when you threaten to live with dad? Sakes.





You only THINK the world revolves around you.