My parents are getting divorced, got and advice to get through it?

Remember, it is NOT your fault. NOTHING you could have done differently would have saved this or changed the outcome.





The biggest fear is the 'fear of the unknown'. You are probably unsure where either will live, or if they'll ever get along again. It all takes time. Do not take sides, but instead love them both. Let them know how you feel and remind them that you love each of them, too.





If one starts to talk bad about the other, simply say ';Please, that is my mother (or father) you are slamming and it hurts me for you to talk that way about a parent that I love';.





It all takes time. Hopefully for your sake it will be a quick and painless transition for you. There are different stages they may go thru, but not everyone goes thru them all. Often the ';Anger Stage'; is first. That may last from a few weeks to a couple months. Then comes the ';Calming Stage'; where each person is getting settled into their new environment.


Then comes the ';Friendship Stage'; where they actually talk civilized to each other again.





';Don't watch the doors behind you close for you won't see the ones in front of you open';.My parents are getting divorced, got and advice to get through it?
Let the adults deal with their problems. You stay neutral and look at things with your own judgement. If you need someone to talk to, speak to friends if not a professional. Take care.My parents are getting divorced, got and advice to get through it?
I'm really sorry. Have you tried asking them to reconsider?
yeah -help your dad pack.....
i know its an uphill batle and you will have to climb but why not let JESUS carry you through difficult times. you will be depressed and i know your mom and dad still love you and will never desert you but ive been through the same thing when i was your age and im 53 and i did survive the heart ache but i had help from CHRIST.maybe if you prayed about this divorce there is a good chance that your parents may give up this idea and work through it all.i have seen many miracles in my life and your young and i was once your age. i lived through vietnam which i served in the army and i was injured badly but im fine except im disabled severely but i have a great outlook on life and so can you.
Dear Friend ,





First of all i am very sorry that they are getting divorced ............can i have the details so that i can help you out .........





i am anubhav m 26 from delhi and social worker
Divorce in a childs point of view is tough. Don't take what your parents are doing as personal---their problems are not your problems. Don't take sides and don't let your parents use you as a sounding board to listen to their goings on regarding their DIVORCE!
Religion is the major divorce maker and can be the major relationship builder if it is done right. Most Fundamental Traditional Religions teach a black and white world and mixed in a recipe with today's goals of gettin rich, generally marriages don't have much of a chance. Sin is rampant, especially the temptation and desires of the flesh and greed. As populations grow, beguilement grows too. Find God in your heart and work from there. If your parents divorce, they did not find love, at least not for very long. They were attracted to something else in life. For your own healing, find a way to love elsewhere that brings you real inner joy. Try not to make their mistake. Seek out mentors for what you think is the Way as it were. They are rare, but they do exist and they are precious and delicate and yet strong. If we begin to give credit to that element in society that is what we think we need to mentor unto, our society will improve and divorce will eventually go away. Unfortunately many worship material wealth, which to a certain degree is necessary, and they worship the human flesh along with that. Any marriage can develop healthy if there is constant communication with grace. There will be disagreement, but the grace concentration will guide the partners through that.
First remember it is not your fault, and they both love you. They are divorcing each other, not you. Parents are people too. You don't have to like them, or love them, but it is great if you do. You should try to respect their decision. Being around people that fight can cause alot of stress. Talk to your friends, or even your school counseler if you need to. Even if you don't go to church, some local churches have free seminars on dealing with divorce. It is like group therapy. If they talk bad about each other to you, tell them that it makes you feel uncomfortable, and you would prefer that they didn't do that. Good Luck