Thinking of asking a divorced woman out need advice 10 pts best

I am 27 and single. My sister said she can fix me up with one of two women.


woman 1: divorce,33,3 kids,nurse/real estate sales,pretty, don't know much about home life


woman 2: divorce,32, 3 kids, pretty,secretary, crazy ex husband,still has divorce drama


Both women have seen me and are very interested. I don't have a problem with older women or kids. But, I have never gone out with a divorced woman with kids. Is it a good idea or should I run? any advice on dating a divorced woman with kids will be welcomed. ThanksThinking of asking a divorced woman out need advice 10 pts best
Don't meet the kids until it's serious. You don't want them attached to you and have it not work out, that is horrible and that will probably be the moms biggest concern. But ask about the kids allot this will get you major brownie points with them. When you do meet the kids, no public displays of affection. Be ready to listen and be understanding.





Don't expect to get laid on the first date. But be ready for her to rock your world when you finally do.





Don't play them both. Be straight forward and honest. Thinking of asking a divorced woman out need advice 10 pts best
Your just going out for a date and divorce is not a fatal disease it is just a relationship that didn't work out . there is always an injured party wether it is the ex wife or ex husband or ex girlfriend ex boyfriend. It was a marriage it didn't work only difference is they had something at one time that was enough to want to be together bound by law. divorce is just the legal way of undoing that bond. But a divorced woman is a no nonsense woman she has no time for bullcrap and games especially when she has a fulltime job and a family to provide for.
First you should ask out the first woman hopefully she has no drama like the second. Of course it depends on how long she has been divorced. Next you are just asking her on a date not on a relationship so you will not have to deal with the children yet. However you should ask about her kids on the date as you would as about anything someone is interested in (work hobbies etc.). When you have gone out a few times then you will worry about the kids. She will introduce you when she feels she and the kids are ready. Then after that just follow their lead. Hope this helps.
Geeze, it would just be a date right? They are a women just like any other women. Their mothers. For some of the male's that answered, you may have felt differently if you saw your mother go on a date after being divorced. She is just entitled to happiness as the ';never been married'; women. Lastly, don't worry about, they may be skeptical of you as well. If you that worried about it - move on to the single's scene.
I am a divorced woman with a kid... though I am much younger. I would personally stay away from the one with the drama... especailly if you don't know what its about. You don't want to get involved with that. Don't meet the kids until you know if you will be exclusive. Make sure you keep in mind that going out on a date may take a bit for her to find a baby sitter so be patient, and realize that there wont be a lot of time alone. But as long as you are open minded there shouldn't be a problem. Good luck!
Well judging your options, I'd say #1,simply because of the lack of drama. It really wouldn't hurt to go out on several dates with both and get a true feel for the situation. If you choose not to date a woman just because she's divorced or going through one, you might pass up someone great, you never know.
How long ago was she divorced? If it was recent I might question it. You don't want to be the rebound guy. Plus if she just got divorced, she's probably still getting over the problems with her ex. And she might not be ready to date again even if she thinks she is. If it was a while ago, I don't see why not. Go for it!
well im a 27 year old women divorced and have 3 kids. but you have to think about you because think of the responsibilitys. she comes with a package and you have to accept them to. are you ready for all of that. if you go for it watch out for the chic with the crazy ex. but dont run be friends at first take it slow and you'll know if its right or not.
do you like them? how about their kids? That is probably the biggest Q you need to answer. And after that you should find out what they are looking for, they are probably looking for someone that will be around for along time, But you need to find out . And after that just know that habbits are heard to break and you might end up in a situation where you feel like you are married! Hope this helps some, good luck!
Well, I think the 1rst one. Because she is obviously OK alone. She may be lonley but she's taking care of bizness very well. There is nothing wrong with dating either one, Everyone needs love and my husband married me I had 2 kids already, but without him i would be so lost, he is my hero
If you like kids, it shouldn't be that bad. A divorced woman usually is no different than a woman with an ex, but probably more into taking care of her children than a guy.





Try and see if you can take them both out, see who you like more.
Do not settle for anything less than love. Things get rocky no matter what, and you need to have the motivation to hang on and fight for your marraige. Love motivates you to hold yourself responsible for your part and to forgive your partner for theirs. This is the work that I have learned works wonders in my marraige.
FOR THE LOVE ALLL THAT IS GOD LOVE AND HOLY!!!! DONT MESS WITH EITHER OF THEM!!!!!


Two grown women with 3 kids a piece? Into instant family? RUN!!!! These women are damaged goods, and trust me there are tons of hot women out in the world that don't have baggage a.k.a. the kids... and psycho ex's!!!! RUN MUTHA F*CKA!!!!! RUN!!!!!!!
Marry her it would be adultery.
I'd go with number 1. 'cause if you've never dated someone who is divorced, or even who has kids... a crazy ex-husband isn't very pleasing to deal with!
dont get involved with devorce women they aint ready
You are wasting your time.
with kids!!! RUN
go with the first one. you don't need no crazy ex hanging around and bugging you or following her around. plus you don't want to be a fill in.





Home life you can teach her. Just make sure that you have her explain the first date is you and her alone, then after that, make sure your dates include the children. you don't want them to feel left out.





by that, I mean go on saturday after noon outings with the kids, then after you have had dinner, call the sitter and then go out.





One mistake men usually make is to leave the kids out. That makes them feel like you don't like them. My daughter felt that way a few times. Then I met someone who included her, and treated her as his own, and it has worked great.





We would do things with her, then leave her with Granny and do our own thing later in the evening.
You have to more than be opened to kids. You have to want kids and be accepting that you will be expected to be a dad with out being a dad. Like you will be expected to take them out to eat ( as a family ) and help pay for their school supplies etc.... but at first you won't be able to punish them or tell them that their backtalking you is unacceptable. You will have to let the mother handle everything til things progress in the relationship. And I think that would be very hard.





this is all assuming the relationship progresses because I think it is stupid to get into a relationship with a divorced women unless you plan on progressing it. Because when you date a divorced women with kids you are breaking up with her and her children.





I say no to women number two. You are already going to have a lot on your hand if you two hit it off. being repetitive about when you are dating a women with kids you are not only trying to win her heart but you are also trying to win the hearts and build relationships with her kids. The last thing you need to deal with is a crazy ex husband who is always going to be a part of her life because of his children.





Women number one seems to have her act together.


It couldn't hurt to try it. Unless you find out something about her that is unacceptable.
Get to know her first because it is tough enough on kids to have another man in their mom's life other than dad. Ask her out discretely to get to know if you want to continue further. If so than casually arrange to meet or hang out at the house with her and the kids, don't get overly affectionate the kids need to adjust to you being there first. Talk to the kids and listen. Don't try to impress them at this point, just be yourself, kids can spot a phony act a mile away and won't be impressed.


Caution with the 2nd woman. If there is still drama you may want to rethink this woman. She may be a wonderful person but unless you are willing to deal with extra crap I wouldn't go that route. Divorced woman with kids are not that much different than single woman except they have been hurt in a relationship and have responsibilities for children and can't just drop everything and go out. They have the same needs as the other woman but may have to put those on hold at times for the kids sake. Kudos to you for not running at the thought of 3 kids. You sound like a terrific guy. Best of luck in your relationships.