He's divorcing and wants a relationship with me...advice!?

so theres this guy who i met a while ago and i became really good friends with him (we work together). however, he's currently going through a divorce (after 2 years of marriage/ is also seperated and not living with her).


Anyhow, to get to the point, he told me that he enjoyed being around me and asked whether i could see us becoming more than friends. i felt very uncomfortable, and told him it didnt matter bcuz he's still technically married.


truth is, he is a funny guy, i enjoy talking to him, and i do have feelings for him, BUT i dont think i could ever date someone who has been married and i feel that him wanting to rush into relationship when he's not even out of one might be ';hint'; not to get involved.





whats your opinion? what should i do (tell him it will never be more than frineds) ?He's divorcing and wants a relationship with me...advice!?
If he really wants something serious w/you then tell him that he needs to wait until his divorce is FINAL, and it woud not be such a bad idea to ask for proof as well. Ive known many guys/men that lie to women about going through such a rough marriage and getting a divorce and their wives are at home waiting for them to come home and know nothing about a divorce. Men are liars....Not all.....but I have meet alot of them that tell you they are going through a divorce and they really arent just so that they can get into your panties....I were you I would keep him as a friend....and nothing else....is hes is not okay w/you guys just being friends then end the friendship. I dont understand why anyone going through a divorce would want to get/start a new relationship when they arent even out of one yet. Think about it and I hope you make a wise choice! They are always plenty of single and free men out there! Dont settle for less!He's divorcing and wants a relationship with me...advice!?
Once someone has ';separated'; or accepted divorce is the next step, it's completely over. I believe they have truly decided to break away what ';marriage'; really stands for. If the divorce isn't final then it just means the lawyers aren't done squabbling over petty items.





If you guys are clicking go with the flow, no need to run away from a guy who is ';separated';. Nothing wrong with hanging out with someone, believe it or not he needs you more than you might think.
It is more than a hint!!! You would be his rebound girl. Not only that, but at that stage of the game, anything can happen. Many people have gone back together just as the divorce was to happen, due to the reality check of the situation.





Tell him that you are not interested in more than a friendship at this point.
I don't understand: You have second thoughts about him- so what are you doing still entertaining him and asking for this advise?





Also, you might just be the rebound girl so run as fast as you can.
if he is getting a divorce, than he shouldn't mind your wanting to wait until after he is free to begin a relationship with u. don't get involved until he is for sure divorced.
I'm guessing he's really not going through a divorce. He's just using you to get you in bed, and you're buying it. Men will say anything to get a woman in bed. Women have to be stronger and smarter though.
sounds like you should ';trust your gut'; on this one,you will be the rebound relationship for him.never get your feelings involved when dating the newly divorced,chances are very slim hes ready to settle back down so soon.
yes tell it will never be more than friends. you are a very mature smart woman. he is just fooling around and dont ever get involved with a married man. and he is still married.good luck
STAY CLEAR OF A DIVORCED MAN FOR HE HAS NO MORE USE TO A WOMAN OTHER THAN THE WOMAN HE WAS MARRIED TO FOR ALL TIME.HE WILL ALWAYS COMPARE YOU TO HIS WIFE.
He needs time after his divorce to get over everything that has happened and to find himself again. I don't think you should go after this guy anytime soon. You will just be a ';rebound'; girl.
its not bad to marry a divorced man .but if u hav any feelings towards him then only take any step otherwise a BIG NO.
well, i'll bet that just fell out of the clear dark sky!
my thoughts, never say never, is one, I ate those words so many times in my life.





if heis a nice guy tell him dinner would be nice, and you would like to get to know him after the divorce. if he is in a hurry, maybe he will not be back and you will not have to say yes or no as he is in a hurry to find another women at this point and any women would do.





also, a man alone is lonely as would be a women, and he is looking to hide his hurt and shame. He doesn't know tis, so he is asking you as a friend and a nice looking women he knows and maybe nothing more.





my thoughts good luck