What advice would you give to a friend who is hiv+ with a husband who is hiv- and he wants to divorce her?

she has been married for 6yrs but not able to have children,the husband has 2 other wives,but after testing positive last year ,the husband wants to divorce her,the husband is negative ,she is jobless,and has lost any hope of getting one because she is sick, she says she still loves her husband , these other 2 wives are happy about her lossing out in this marriage , ,she says ,the husband used to love her so much though she has never cheated but now he has changed a lot ,in terms of ,sex, attention,affection e t c,but physically she looks healthy it seems she has lived with the virus for quite some time,what advice would you give her ,without minding the language please ?What advice would you give to a friend who is hiv+ with a husband who is hiv- and he wants to divorce her?
it happened for a reason. find out y later.What advice would you give to a friend who is hiv+ with a husband who is hiv- and he wants to divorce her?
If ur friend has just found out she's HIV+ and her hubby doesn't have it, it doesn't mean that later he won't test positive. Lots of adjustments going on. Both need lots of factual information before major decisions. Maybe he's scared or he is PO %26amp; wants her gone. He may change but she can't count on it. If she married him and knew about the virus... didn't tell him then he feels betrayed. In his eyes it maybe the way she contracted the disease that is bothering him.





She needs to find a support group of others who are living with HIV. She will find good information, understanding and get good factual information on the next steps she needs to follow to get state medical attention and disability benefits to survive on her own later on down the road. Her hubby sounds like he quits the women and moves on... since she's wife number three.





She needs legal guidance from her states lawyers so any assets they have she keeps her share of the 6 yr marriage. While she still wants him, she probably needs to not count on him as he doesn't sound reliable. If she is healthy, good drug therapy and diet have proven to be really positive and good quality of life expectancy.
obviously he didn't mean his vows when he said through sickness %26amp; in health...but then i'm getting a divorce 2 just because i'm not happy.who am i 2 say%26gt;
huh i dont get it....are they are polymist or something and if she is + im sure hell test + in the next couple of months along with the other two wives......so i dont see what kicking her out will do??





what city are u guys in
I think you may want to speak to someone who deals with this type of situation on a regular basis. You can probably contact your local health dept. and see if they can send you in the right direction in helping you to find the words to help your friend.





I am assuming that since she did not get the HIV from the current husband, then it came from, a former husband, or bf, or from serious drug use with hypodermic needles, of she may have work in the health care field and may have had exposure that finally did become positive.





People need to understand that it is and would be very difficult to remain in a marriage where your partner has such a deadly disease, and if she has not told him how or where she may have gotten the dreaded disease, then he is wondering if she cheated. It is very hard on h im too, he does not want to get the diesease, and probably does not want to see her die of it, it is an awful sight to watch a human being go from being a healthy looking 130lb person to 50lb, and look like you are in a refugee camp in some 3rd world country.
Valtrex....Because she has it and he still doesn't