I need advice with my first divorce in regards to my 2 year old son?

We recently seperated and we are going to file for divorce. This is her 3rd marriage and my first. Of course things have been tense as expected. But she has yet to leave him with me over the weekend until we have a parenting plan.


Do women always get the advantage in the parenting plans ?


I feel like im always on edge and have to kiss up to her or else she will threanten to make things worse for me.I need advice with my first divorce in regards to my 2 year old son?
Women used to have the advantage but it's gradually changing. Each parent feels like they are loosing their child and mother's tend to hold on a little tighter. One thing I have seen and know from personal experience is.....


things are constantly changing. Your child for one will go through stages as he gets older. Sometimes needing mommy a little more and some times daddy. He's 2 right now and still mommy's baby...but that will change some. You...as parents will also have many stages, especially if you move on to new love interests. When my husband divorced his first wife he had his 3 year old son 90% of the time due to the fact that mommy was livin' it up. That soon changed and she remarried and had another child and wanted to be more of a mother. He is now 13 and wants to spend more time with his daddy once again and do typical ';guy'; things. My point to all of this is during the course of your son's childhood so many things will change including you and your ex-wife. Just remember that and love him to death when you have him and never make him feel bad for needing mommy. He will remember that unconditional love when he's older and love you more for it. Hang in there!! This...too shall pass!!I need advice with my first divorce in regards to my 2 year old son?
Get a good lawyer. Even people who say they want to remain friends to make it easy on the kids somehow turn into monsters once a breakup happens. Try talking to her about it civilized with it being taped (if you tape it and she doesn't know it won't hold up in court), that way she can't threaten you. And if she does, it'll be on tape then you'll have no problem getting the kids.





For some reason most courts will give moms full custody, no matter how bad the mom is. Like I said, get a good lawyer. Unfortunately, you'll have to work really hard to prove that you're a good dad and maybe he'll/she'll help you work things out.





Sorry about your divorce, hopefully things will work out for you. And good luck with seeing your son. Maybe eventually you two can work things out and she'll be more open to leaving your son with you. Is there any reason for her not to trust you?
What you need to do first is go and file for a legal separation. In that, it will define visitation etc...





Or if you really want to see your kid and keep him overnight, then until there is a court order in place, you can do that without her permission.





You have just as much right to the child as she does, so what you need to do is assert yourself and stop laying down. If you allow her to control you now, it will only get worse later on.
Once the divorce is final and the papers are signed and you have the visitation right in the divorce decree she shouldn't be able to get away with this, but those woman they love to toy with the kids and the ex husband and its sad as when a man wants to see his child or children it should be a wonderful thing and everybody should be happy, but i think women sometime just like to make the man unhappy and what they end up doing is making the child unhappy. Good luck to you.
Yes women tend to get very manipulative and bossy when in a divorce. That is where you need to be strong and stand your ground. The court system has helped my husband out tremendously with his three kids from a previous marriage. The courts really have been making some changes to help support the dads more. If i were you i would take advantage of that and use it. Bring her to court and get the visitation that you deserve. Be strong and don't let her push you around. Good luck.
pagan queen is right what she is doing is setting you up so she gets full custody of your child my ex did the same 2 me when it went 2 court she claimed i didn't try 2 see my children but i saved every text email ect.. 2 prove she refused 2 let me i even had to get a court order 2 keep her in the state so.. divorce is a nasty thing and the fights after about the kids and child support she has had it raised so many times now i have 2 work 3 jobs just to survive but we have 4 children and well i'm sure your scared enough sorry good luck
ITS SAD SO U BETTER B READY TO DO A LOT OF KISSING UP,,TRY NOT TO PISS HER OFF IN ANY WAY,BUT ALSO MAKE SURE YOU HAVE YOUR OWN LAWYER,AND HE SHOULD B ABEL TO GET U RIGHTS TO HAVE YOUR BABY OVER NIGHT EVEN THOU HIS SO YOUNG THEY NEED TO NO YOU,,PEACE
Talk to an attorney, and now. Protect your rights. Get an appointment with an attorney immediately.
talk to an attorney...you should have rights too. Your child needs you too