Advice about getting a divorce...?

I have been married 27 years and my husband told me that he had been living a lie and could not anymore. That he did not love me anymore and really never did. And he had been with other women off and on throughout our marriage and has met one now. We have 2 grown kids and she told him that she would talk to us if it would help us heal. That it is always the mistress that is dragged through the mud. So i moved out went to be with family and friends. We own a house together and he has now given her a key to the house. Any advice for me. He is retired military what can I get in a divorce...Advice about getting a divorce...?
First I must say I'm truly sorry for what you must be going thru at this time in your life. After living w/someone ALL those yrs., raising a family %26amp; going thru all you have w/one person, then to slap you in the face w/this! I don't feel anyone here can give you advise that you could rely on, you ARE going to definitely get an atty. to sort things out for you. I've gone thru a couple ';normal'; divorces, which is the regular splitting things 50/50, but w/the military, I honestly couldn't tell you what to expect. MAKE SURE you do get a GOOD atty. that WILL get you EVERYTHING you deserve, I'm SURE your children w/help you all they can w/this. At least you do have children who love you %26amp; you can turn to at this time in your life. I TRULY do hope at some time in your future you WILL find someone who you can share your life with, someone who w/love you as you deserve to be loved in return. You may not be even thinking along those lines at the moment, but you DO deserve happiness in your future. He WILL get what he deserves at some time in his life. I have found that what goes around DOES IN FACT come back around, so he WILL get his ';just due rewards'; in the end somehow some way. Do your best to look forward %26amp; go forward. I wish you the very best in your future...:)Advice about getting a divorce...?
You will get half of the house, half of any retirement plan he has and half of just about any other assets you may have (bank accounts, cars etc.). If he supports you financially you will get spousal support (alimony). Call an attorney. Look for a reputable one, it makes a difference if the attorney is experienced or not.
Your husbands mistress is willing to talk to you and ';help'; you.


Holy shi*, how could she be so cruel. He is with a very nasty woman. Get an attorney, go back to the house, and take his sorry as* for everything you can. Oh, by the way, men always say they never really loved you, when they leave, its just a phrase. If he did not love you before, he should have left, I think he did love you
Are you serious, he has put you through hell and back and you are just going to give up your home and let his have it. I would take him for everything he's got, even though it wont heal the pain that he has caused you, you deserve to have everything. So sorry that you had to go through this.
first off you are not divorced. go home. buy a recorder. tell him to have her to come over and talk with you. remain calm. get her and your husband to admit the affair. courts do not look kindly on adulterers. get a good as* attorney. divorce him on grounds of adultery. mental abuse, and verbal abuse. you will be able to walk away with more than half. try and get him to repeat all you said here that he never loved you that it was a mistake this is mental anguish
i depends in what state you are in. but at any, you should have 50% of your lives together. if you can prove he is at fault. all documents , photos, witnesses and so on. it will help you. along the way. sounds dirty but you are no. one along with the kids. sorry for your turmoil. 27 years is a long time to have a husband to say this to you. my heart goes to you.
Why would you be the one to leave?? He wants to change the family- let him be the one to leave! Well, whatever- at least make him sell the house or buy you out. Take half of everything and move forward. You don't deserve this. Good luck!
First off, I'd get my behind back into that house and throw her OUT. Hopefully he will follow. Next, find yourself a good atty. Good luck and stay strong and dont you even consider feeling sorry for the ';poor mistress.'; That's not even funny.
Find yourself a good attorney who isn't out to just make money from your divorce - one who will support your best interests. Most attorneys will give you an initial consultation and so you can interview several.





You might also consider counseling...not to save the marriage but to help you make the best choice for your life.





What you can get probably depends on the state you live in. If it's a community property state, you may (and again, you'll have to consult an expert to find out for sure) be eligible for half of all the assets you've acquired together.





You really want to get some expert advice from trained professionals.
You need to find an attorney who will give you a free consultation. If your husband is cheating and is retired military then you can most likely get his retirement check. I have a friend and she also divorced her husband and he was retired military. He had cheated with three women and she got his retirement check in her divorce. He also lost everything but his clothes. You may also be entitled to the house. You are the one who should not have left your home. Your husband is the one who is wrong in having the other woman move into your home. Find an attorney and ask anything that you are wanting to know.