Advice needed - religion and divorce?

my marriage is dead. He has a mistress. 4 years, im just living with him simply because of our children/financed. Would it be wrong for me to date/sex? My husband doesnt touch me. Im so lonely. Wld it mean, im committing adultery? what about my needs? would God understand how lonely and unloved i am?Advice needed - religion and divorce?
I am truly sorry for your seemingly undeserved predicament.


Seek an individual with a PHD for this one. We here in Yahoo! are unqualified mostly.





Edit: If you only wanted answers from ';born again'; Christians you should have said that from the get go. Besides, are the rest of us inferior or too dumb to answer in your eyes?Advice needed - religion and divorce?
I am a born again Christian, and yes, it would be considered adultery. God does understand, and though I don't always give this advice, I will now. Either go to marriage counseling or get a divorce. God allows divorce in the instance of adultery. There is no reason for you to put up with this. As long as you stay with him, he thinks you approve of his behavior or think it's okay and acceptable, and he will continue in his sin. Don't start sinning yourself. Keep a clean record with God. Don't stoop down to your husband's level.
If you are a born-again Christian yourself then you know the answers to some of your question already.





Yes, it would be adultery if you had sex with another man, whilst still married to this one.





Adultery is the only reason the bible gives for an acceptable divorce so, as your husband has already committed this, you can be free from him by divorcing him and then you would be free to marry another Christian, not just another man. Be ye not unequally yoked to unbelievers.





I can understand your reason for wishing to stay because of the children and finance and it will not be easy to set up another home on your own. He, however, should be held responsible for the upkeep of the children and to some extent your expenses because he is the one who has brought this situation about.





My advice to you would be to seek legal advice and get divorce proceedings going. You don't have to warn him if you don't want. The first solicitors letter can be the first time he knows about it if you do not want an earlier confrontation but it might be unpleasant anyway.





Perhpas he likes the situation as it is. You probably still do all the wifey things, his washing, the cooking and cleaning etc. which his mistress is mnaging not to do but just enjoying the physical side of their relationship. If this is so, you are being taken for a mug and are being his servant whilst she provides the pleasure. He's having it both ways at your expense.





If you've been putting up with this for 4 years I'm sure the courts will accept that the marriage is over. However, do not be tempted to have sex with him if he suddenly requests it. That might stop any divorce and he might not want a divorce because you are very useful to him at the moment. His mistress might not want a share in bringing up his children and he might not want the expense of a divorce (and all that brings) but you deserve a life which you are not having with him.
Be faithful. ';The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.';


(1 Corinthians 7:39-40 KJV)



I have to ask you a question...It is obvious that he was not committed to the marriage as yourself? Where you unequally yoked together from the start? Did he believe as yourself when you got married or did this develop over time?





Loneliness I think is human, I can understand your needs...but if you be for God? Are you really Truly lonely? for HE is with thee every step of the way...I think you can endure it. We are all human and in Christian teachings, are flawed by sin...it is only through the blood of Christ we will prevail...





I do not know his side of the story....but are you willing to forgive him? also is he willing to be forgiven??? or is it because of his sin, you can not get past it ? Does he feel the same, that the marriage can not be saved?





Have you gone to your pastor and asked for guidance? Have you attempted any counseling? I do believe that divorce is a reality, and in many cases warranted...I hope it all works out for you....





Also like many before, do not feel obligated to hang around for the children's sake, continue with the process. I know every state has different laws in reference to divorce...i know some have a mandatory 1 year separation time, then by the time its out in court another year...





Please do not compromise your own beliefs, by committing adultery yourself...because you know that will end up in court and that would give him just as much leaverage to fight for custody of the children or you may both lose them to the state in the proccess...





Let the legal system run its course...stay true to yourself and God...and you will prevail, and that loving feeling that you once had will return...





Hope this helps...
you should get a divorce before you go out and find other partners because it blocks a lot of chaos that might come down the road if your husband finds out your cheating on him. Also God hates divorce but he allows it because of the hard hearts of men. This is what Jesus said.
Divorce him God allows that after that meet another man and get married GOD will allow this for you. Don't be like him Divorce him


use this time to allow God and you to have the intimacy you so much desire and leave it in his hands He will bring you the right man.
Yes it would be wrong!! Two wrongs don't make a right. The Word tells you that if you even look with lust, you have committed adultery. What does your pastor say to your husband?? Have you attempted any type of ';help';? Read the book of Hosea, and just turn the sexes around. You will think this crazy, but you need to pray for your husband, stop thinking or doing, just pray for him, have your friends pray-nothing bad, actually ask God to bless him. Read Psalms and Proverbs, at least one a day, over and over.


You say your lonely? Then it's time to lean on The Lord. Read and study, He will be your strength, your comforter, it's not about you, it's about your relationship with Jesus Christ. Read 1 Corinthians 3:16;6:18; Romans 1:27; before you do ANYTHING!! Father, I lift this precious daughter up to you, calm her , bring her Your love, and touch her heart, let her know You feel her pain, bring her the proper council and let the healing begin, in her seeking Your Word. Thank you, In Jesus Name. Amen
split if he has a mistress.





Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Jesus himself said that the only acceptable reason for a divorce is adultery.





Do you really think God is so mean that he doesn't know how you feel right now?





Go be happy. God wants everyone to be happy.
you can get divorce according to your case in Islam!!and childeren will be with you and he is going to pay for you as well.Yes God understands ourselves more than us.
You are roommates. Get the divorce and be civil to each other. You can still be roommates if you wish. Best of luck.





[ Sorry. Did not read that last part until too late. ]
you are free toi divorce him because he has been unfaithfully but you should not have sex outside marriage so think about finding a better husband. you can control your desires I am sure until you have the right man.
divorce, why be miserable
i say go for it whats like Buddha said do unto others... and yes Buddha said it waaay before jebus
No one can tell you what to do


You have to decide for yourself.