Advice on parent's divorce?

so i'm 19 and i took a year off from school to hang out, i just enrolled in college and was getting ready to move out when my parents told me they were getting divorced. Now that my dad lives 30 miles away, i was going to be living 30 miles the other direction and my mom's going to be all alone in the house.





I can't bring myself to leave her alone in the house all by herself, she can't sell the house due to financial constraints.


My mom won't accept help from my dad.


so i've postponed college and picked up a 2nd job to help with bills and i've also took on all the ';man of the house'; duties. such as yard work and random repairs.





i don't know how to convince myself that i need to take care of myself, get an education and move on.


Cause no matter how i look at it my mom seems more important.





(OK PROBLEM IN A NUTSHELL)


mom and dad getting divorced.


Bills are too high and mom needs help.


but


I need education.


and i feel guilty/selfish.








any advice?





sorry for being so long winded.Advice on parent's divorce?
Try to talk your Dad into staying with Mom and paying the bills until you finish college. You must continue your education even if you have to do it on the computer or local college.





And tell Mom to swallow your pride and take everything in the way of financial help she can from him.





Ask them to try counseling. If they can't afford it, they can go to a minister for help.





Joy to you!Advice on parent's divorce?
Yes, sit them down and tell them how you feel. Even if it's separately. Tell your dad that he needs to help your mother out. That after all these years he needs to be a man and step up and pay alimony. And that you want to get an education. And if he doesn't help her out you'll be forced to do that. And does he really want you to do that? That you'd be stepping in if he can't. Hopefully he'll be man enough to see it's not your responsibility. If dad won't do that, could your mom rent the house out and get a cheaper apartment? It's really not your place to give up your education. You will regret this and resent her. And she shouldn't ask this of you, even if she's not verbally saying for you to do this. But she shouldn't even be allowing it. It's time for you to live your life. And both your parents should realize this. You're not guilty or selfish. You're an adult and it's time for you to move out and take care of your life. Not your parents. Good luck!
Your mom deserves to get money from your dad.. she has earned it after 30 years.





You should stop being a mama's boy and get your behind back in school. You should never have wasted the past year just to ';hang out';.
sweetie you are correct in saying that YOU need an education. your mom is a big girl and she need to get out of denial and handle her business. and you dad need to be a bigger man and assist her regardless whether she wants it or not. you should not have to not go to school to assist with THEIR bills. its their mess so let THEM sort it out. you go back to school ASAP and stay in there until you are finished and at that point if you can help mom than do so. GodBless
You need to have a conversation with both of your parents, tell them both what you said to us, and I am certain that they both will agree that your education is more important than a house...





Suggest marriage counseling to both of your parents, that is a lot of years to throw away.





Best of Luck