Divorce?? I really need some advice?

ok, So Im on my 3rd marriage ( I know I know) Im sure most people will be like hmmm... a Christian whose divorced.....well lets get over that for a second. I marry to quick that's my problem. But now I am miserable, I don't find him the least bit attractive, he annoys me. I also had a major breakdown. Should I try to make it work ? Or try to live my life happy? He doesn't beat me, drink to much etc...... JUST REALLY annoys meDivorce?? I really need some advice?
It is not him that is annoying you. It is you. You will never be happy hopping from man to man. I am sure your husband is the same as he was when you married him. Men don鈥檛 chance so easily. You are annoyed because of something that is going on with you.





You should try some personal counseling. Also, on top of that try some marriage counseling. That way you husband will know what is going on with you and can learn some techniques of how to help you without letting you punish him.





Happiness doesn鈥檛 come from other people. It comes within. Until you find a way to make yourself happy, you are going to live a miserable life no matter who you are with, and you are going to continue to blame everyone around you instead of yourself.





I hope that this is the point of your life that you turn your life around and find out how to live a happy, productive, and positive life! You deserve the best, but only YOU can give that to yourself. Once you are happy, you will be a good wife and mother and can spread love and happiness to those around you.Divorce?? I really need some advice?
Been there %26amp; done that too! I have been married 3 times as well. I say if your not happy you need to get out of this one too! It isn't going to get better only worse,because you are going to resent his behavior more %26amp; more. The best thing you can do after is what I am doing. I found a good man , we are engaged, but I told him I won't marry him for at least 3 years, %26amp; only got 1 more to go, that way I know for sure I can handle his short comings, %26amp; he can handle mine %26amp; still love each other enough to make it work %26amp; get married %26amp; stay married for the final time. But I didn't jump right into after my last marriage I dated for 2 years, before I met him, %26amp; he was so different from the choices I had made in the past, %26amp; even the few guys I had went on dates with ,. that I pretty much knew he was the right one. So remember take a lot more time on the next one %26amp; really take time to know them well first.






lol, join the club hunny :O) im a christian and i am now married to my second husband mine was also waaaaaaaay to quick i married him 3 mnths after meeting him on a christian web chat room ( yeah crazy i know)





im now married to an amazing man whome i love so much more than my ex, and who i know loves me more than anyone of thing in the world.


BUT my gosh does he pee me off at time's, i find him irriteting, annoying, imature and i could so slap him sometime he can be soooo imbarresing. but thats not his fault he's male hehe, i think who ever you marry they will annoy you, you have to stick in there and when he really peeing you off remember the reasons you married him. evev if you cant see them right now they are still there





tj


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Ha ha my husband annoys me all the time. Maybe you need to explain to him what it is about him that is driving you crazy. Divorce is miserable..I too have been there. You don't want to go through all that again. Figure out what made you love him in the first place and try to focus on that.





Some days I wake up and say I am going to do everything I can possibly do for my husband today.... Usually turns out to be the best day ever because he realizes it and trys to do the same for me!
You made your bed and should lie in it. Get to the bottom of what attracted you to him in the first place and try and reharness it before you are married and divorced more often than Elizabeth Taylor. If you decide on counseling make sure you focus on what makes you so shortsighted and immature as to behave like this with major life decisions.
The bit about the major breakdown...seems to be maybe a source of your problems? You should look into seeing a therapist.





Easy solutions, like divorce, are not always the best thing. I mean, you have heard wedding vows like three times now. What part of ';for better or worse'; did you not hear?





I am not always happy, but divorce isnt the first thing I think about when trying to fix my situation. You are too quick to dismiss the fact that you have been married three times, and quick to point out you are Christian, as if that will make it ok?


Sometimes we grow and rediscover ourselves when we lie in the bed we have made.


There must have been something magical about your husband, or else why did you marry him in the first place?
Well you mentioned Christianity....if you are wanting a faith based answer, then you do not have grounds for divorce. The only reasons God gives for divorce is death and adultery.


Faith aside, you still have no grounds for divorce...divorcing someone because you made a bad decision or because he annoys you is your mistake....


You do need counceling, to get over your issues with marriage. First take care of yourself, get the therapy YOU need. Then you and your husband should get marital counceling together.
The amount of marriages does not mean anything. I know I have been living your life also. But to answer your question, Life is short, and if something in your life is causing you stress, then you need to eliminate that problem. You deserve to be happy, and it does not matter how many frogs you have to kiss, you will eventually find your prince. Good luck.
Well, I'd say if you truly LOVE him and are IN LOVE with him, then work on the marriage. Otherwise, end it. There's NEVER a reason to force yourself to remain unhappy. It's never too late to change your life.





Although for the record, I AM pro-marriage counseling, working it out, open communication, etc...IF you are still in love and BOTH 100% committed to working on it.
3rd marriage and your still not happy? You need some help!





Sounds like you don't understand the concept of marriage. Your not supposed to be happy, your supposed to give up a part of yourself to other...





Your not attracted to him, he annoys you? Wow! Bad choices. Get a divorce and make yourself happy before promising to be with someone forever and ever.
hey melissa. first i must say that your an idiot. why? because you married 3 guys who you find annoying. Are you too pressed for time in your crazy schedule to wait a little while before marrying someone? Will you just die if your single? Its 2010 you old fart, dont settle for $hi* unless you like eating $hi*.
First of all, as a Christian, you need to find out if the marriage you are in is a valid marriage in the eyes of God. I encourage you to visit these sites with a bible in hand..........Blessings...........





http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html





http://www.marriagedivorce.com
If you have kids you have already put them thru the ringer...one more divorce wont hurt them any more than they already are. Use condoms as you are finding your next victim and keep a list of drug rehabs handy for the kids.
If you are at the end of your life, would you look back with regrets if you stayed or if you left You should do what is best for you.
You only have one life Be happy....God wants us all to be happy, yeah divorce is against the bible but so is cussing and hate and people do alot of that, and every sin is the same right? Do what makes you happy
If he beats you and and drinks, get the hell out. It isn't that you pick too soon, you have a problem being attracted to the wrong kind of man.
Suffering is derived from desire.





In your case the Desire to have a 'perfect man', what does he do that would annoy you to this extreme? is it really that bad?
you claim to be a Christian, have you sat down and prayed about this ? This is your only option right now. do it.
Counseling as an individual and a couple.
marriage counseling
It's all your fault. You don't know what you want.
try to work it out I guess
Ask yourself this: Will you be better off without him?
Follow your heart...
How old are you? I think when we are young we make many mistakes. I think 3rd marriage? what should you change?
God does love us and wants us to be happy...in Him--not in our sin. He loves us, the imperfect creatures that we are, but He doesn't expect us to stay as we are. We're expected to allow Him to mold us more like His Son, Jesus Christ. In short, we should not consciously continue to sin; that is taking liberties with God's grace.





If you are a practicing Christian, then you should know that God can restore your marriage if He has been invited into it. Divorce is only permitted (according to the Bible) in the case of adultery.





Praying is good, but you have to make sure that you are being obedient to His Word in every way so that the lines of communication with Him remain open; otherwise, the problem will not get resolved. Too many of us expect God's ';emergency rescue service'; to respond when we haven't bothered to acknowledge him in our daily lives up to the time of the emergency. He wants to hear from us all the time, not just when we're going through a trial.





Work on your marriage. Stop taking the easy out. Just because you're unhappy married to this man now, doesn't mean the situation cannot change. Visualize a triangle or pyramid. If you and your husband are at opposite ends of the baseline, but you're both growing closer to God then you'll naturally be growing closer together as you move up the pyramid closer to God. You two will have come through this difficult time together and be better off for it.





Honor your marriage vows, regardless of the fact that it's your third promise to God. Do the right thing in God's eyes and you'll end up happier than you would be trying to seek happiness your own way.
You make the choice to be happy my dear....happiness starts with YOU not with another person. I am sure you do alot of things that really annoy him too but he make the choice everyday to see the good in you. Instead of focusing on the things that annoy you...how about focusing on the things that you LOVE about him. His sense of humor, or his work ethic, or the way he adores you. If you behave as though you love him guess what your feelings will change as well. You are making a choice not to love him, not to be attracted to him, and to be annoyed with him. Make the choice to love him everyday. Make the choice to respect him, treat him as if he were the most wonderful man and you may discover that the feelings will follow.


Make the most of what you have and be grateful for it. Searching for happiness outside of yourself is an endless journey because no one and nothing will fill you up.


If you are a practicing christian then you know that God is the source of your happiness and joy...not your husband. The bible tells us that we should be content in all things. Imagine for one moment how women in the bible would have ever become great women if they did only what made them happy. Mary didn't ';date'; Joseph she was betrothed to him. I am sure Joseph irritated Mary on numerous occassions and who knows if she was even attracted to him? She loved his heart and fulfilled her vows. You are not called in this life to be happy. God did not promise you a rose garden marriage. He gave you free will to choose your husband but the happiness part is up to you. It's all about perspective. This is why some people no matter how little money they have can still be happy...because their happiness is not based on circumstances or people. They can be happy in all things. Realize that happiness does not depend on your circumstances but how you view your circumstances. It begins with YOU.