How do you cope with your parents divorce? HELP and advice plz.?

my parents are getting a divorce. my mum is with some other guy who was meant to be my future uncle. i have to pretend that i am happy for them so that i don't cause an arguement. i feel that i am to blame for my parents splitting up. what can i do to stop me blaming myself? how do i cope with the divorce? i have to explain to my brothers and sisters what is happening because they are too young to understand. one of my sisters is 13 but she is happy with them being together so i cant talk to her. who can i talk to?How do you cope with your parents divorce? HELP and advice plz.?
I am sorry you have to go through this. You should, first and foremost, understand that your parents aren't divorcing you. I know this doesn't always help but, they both love you.


I figure you are between the age of 14 and 17 and so I realize that it has to be hardest on you and I am surprised that your parents didn't keep you children as much as possible out of the story behind the divorce. You need to sit down with your parents one on one and explain to them how you feel. Don't let them start brow beating each other but, simply have them tell you the reasons behind the divorce. I am sure that you are not one of them. Good luck.


It's the parents who get divorced but, usually it's the children who suffer the most.How do you cope with your parents divorce? HELP and advice plz.?
its NEVER your fault if your parents divorce. i had a friend when i was younger and her parents divorced and she went to divorce counesling and it helped her with it. good luck
REMEMBER! Your parent's divorce is NOT YOUR FAULT!


THEY CAN'T get along together anymore.I'm SURE they both love you alot still.
Its not your fault your parents are getting divorced.. They will continue to love you and your siblings regardless of what happens.. As far as explaining to your siblings what is happening.. maybe tell your parents how you are feeling and ask for a ';family conference';
You are not to blame. Are you to blame if your dad is laid off from his job? Are you to blame if your mom gets a speeding ticket? Trust me, you're not to blame about this either.
You cannot control what your parents are doing(divorce) and you are definitely not the cause of divorce. Don't let anybody make you feel including yourself that you are the blame. For you this is a very intense situation because you feel this is not right-your family changing the way it is. Your parents are the people that need to explain to your siblings why/what is going on that is not your burden. If they don't, they are being selfish by passing the buck on to you.


Remember you cannot control how the fact of the divorce and the who and what of this situation but you can control how you react to this. You need to accept the fact that there is going to be change (which is stressful) but learn how to go with the flow.


Even if your parents made the statement to you ';you are the reason we are getting divorced '; it is B.S. The reason they are getting divorced has to do with themselves not you.
i don't think it necessary for you to act happy. you should be allowed to just be neutral. i mean you still have a dad right. now you have a stepdad. also. perhaps your mama has just been unhappy for so long that she can't believe her luck. time will tell if she made a good choice. giving or not giving your approval won't change the future. nothing you did in the past caused the divorce. believe me kids just do not know all the inner workings between parents. alot goes on behind closed doors that children are not aware of. and you certainly are not responsible. you are a child. your two parents are both adults.
Why would you even think that you are someone to blame for your parents divorce? It can't be possible.





It is so sad that they are getting a divorce, but what was it like when they were together. Were they unhappy? If so, I'm sure it affected you and your brothers and sisters. Was it a miserable atmosphere? Did they always fight?





If they were unhappy, then try to look on the bright side. Is your mother happy now? Is your father happy now? You could still enjoy both parents. You should also be able to tell them how you feel and how it's affecting you without an argument.





No matter what, that was their own personal problem and if they fell out of love, then they made the right decision. It could never be something to blame on you.





Now get your self respect, pride and value and stay close to both parents and your brothers and sisters. You sound like the intelligent one that could make everyone's life better. I wish you all the luck. God Bless
You are not to blame for your parents splitting up. You can talk to your parents about your feelings, why you think you are to blame and how you can't explain to your younger bothers and sisters what is happening because you yourself don't understand.


Just by reading your question I can tell your a very caring person and will become a stronger person.