Going through a divorce. Need some advice please?

My husband of 21 years walked out on the kids and me about 6 months ago. He had a habit of running out on us, leaving us high and dry, but not for this long. Anyway, I got a lawyer and filed for divorce. Shortly after, he would text me, or the boys, harrassing us, making threats... He was verbally, mentally and often times physically abusive to us all. Well, my lawyer put a temporary order on him, because the boys didn't want to leave with him (they are afraid of him). He's got some mental issues that are all too clear to us all now. I encouraged my boys to call him today to wish him a happy Father's Day. My 14 year old son and my 20 year old daughter didn't want to call him, or talk to him, but my 10 year old did, so I let him... Well, my 10 year old tells him that they are going to be attending a private school in the fall and that I had to borrow money from my mom to do this, putting our guns up as collateral. The guns were left to me by my dad, God rest his soul. Well, he told my son that I can't just put them in a private school unless I clear it with him blah, blah, blah. First of all, my lawyer advised me to do this. I've been homeschooling for years. My lawyer said that I should put them in private school if I can, because our public school system sucks here. I am fixing to go back to school myself... My ex also got angry, because I borrowed money on the guns. Well, I called him back, was really nice. I asked him if he wanted to come over and visit the kids sometime. He started yelling at me saying that I'm going to jail for keeping the boys from him and that I had no right to put them in private school, because HE should have a say in it. Okay, he left us, hasn't paid child support in 3, or 4 months... I had to call the cops on him about 2 months ago, because he kept harrassing us via cell phone. My question is- Am I going to get in trouble from the judge even though there is a temporary oder on him? Am I in trouble for signing them up for private school? I'm doing what my lawyer said to do... Also, why do you all think that he's being so hateful and mean to me? I don't get it. Thanks for your time!Going through a divorce. Need some advice please?
By law, your kids have to go to school. You are complying with the law if you live in the US.





Your husband, who is not clear-headed would normally be entitled to know that the kids are going to private school. BUT, he left and he takes off without reason. You're dealing with a really messed up person here and you cannot respond logically to someone who is not logical.


Also, those kids have a right to an education. You also have the right to stop homeschooling if you think they would be better served by a private school.


My advice? Don't worry about what he thinks. Just get your divorce ASAP and protect those kids.


And good for you for being creative with financing for private school. Your kids will thank you for it. Your kids may also be glad to have school as a place they can focus, rather than on the screwed up dad that they are losing and their parent's divorce.


As far as the guns? If they were a gift form your dad in his will, then they are probably not marital property. If they were obtained while your dad was still alive, then they are likely joint property. But, your loser husband doesn't need to know that. Let him get a lawyer and finish up this divorce.Going through a divorce. Need some advice please?
Cut off all communication. Theres no need for you to even talk to him. He's not paying support so he doesnt deserve a say in where the kids go to school....hes not paying for their education so who cares what he says???





Talk to him through your lawyer only. You cant get into trouble for putting them into private school.......you are providing this for your kids and hes not contributing at all.





Dont let him boss you around......let the lawyers deal with it.
why would u continue to even talk to this guy? i really don;t understand why your telling him anything especially if u have a restraining order on him. why would u insist your kids call the man? u may get into trouble because there is a no contact order and u may have broken it.quit calling your husband, stop telling him things, and listen to your lawyer.