I need advice regarding my bitter divorce.?

I have been apart from my husband for more than a year but he is constantly doing and saying things to upset me. I can't just let it go. If he makes a snide comment I can't let it go, I have to come back with something and it goes back and forth until he stops, but by them I'm beside myself with rage or a crying lump of flesh. Please someone give me advise. It would be greatly appreciated.I need advice regarding my bitter divorce.?
stop communicating with him. change your phone number. let your lawyer do the talking if it is not finalized yet.I need advice regarding my bitter divorce.?
Well now, sounds just like the two of you are still married. The fact that you can't just let it go is one of the main reasons your marriage failed in the first place.





At some point and time you will realize that you let him control your emotions. You will take a breath or two before you speak back, you will sometimes even not reply at all. After he discovers that he can no longer get your goat, he too will antagonize less, and you will have a more blissful post marriage. Maybe if you two could have figured this out years ago, you could have save post marriage.
He is doing the classic transfer of anger. he is upset you two aren't .. together anymore, so when he sees you he feels your happiness and he is not,so he will say something to trip you up, he wants to see you furious, He knows you are pissed off then he walks away smiling bc he knows he got to you.and really, when someone can piss you off like this feelings are still there, you may not want them to be but they are there, So, we you see him just smile at him and say aww, man, it must suck to be you!!!
He says those things because


a) he wants to hurt you and


b) because he knows it gets you so pissed!





So every time he says something mean, just shake your head, smile, laugh a little, and agree with him. For example, he tell you that you're a slob. Come back by saying, ';Yes. Yes I am a slob. Gosh, you're so smart.'; If you do this every time he says something mean, he'll get so tired of saying mean things! He'll not want to do it anymore and you'll look like the BETTER PERSON! He wants so badly for you to get riled up and lose your cool. So, next time he says something, either agree with him, ignore him, or just shake your head.





If you do those things, he'll realize that there is just no point in insulting you!
Stay away from him. Ignore anything he says. Get a backbone and walk away when he makes snide remarks.





When you respond to what he says or does, you give him power over you. Get a grip on yourself and do not give him that power. Be stronger than that and don't become a crying lump of flesh.
Far too often we men are still bratty kids. The problem here is twofold, you want to air out the issue and discuss it and he doesn't. So to avoid a sensitive issue he hits a soft nerve in you and bam you 2 go at it again.





Here's a key word. Forgive. If you can things won't bother you, if you can't your doomed to repeat this again and again.





Sweet Mildred is my leader, crawl into her playpen with me.
It is time for self control.


It is time to let it go.


It is time for you to stop feeding his ego.


It is time for counseling.


It is time for you to go.





Don't look back, hold your head high and start again a new life


new adventure
so y don't u b da bigger person and let it go he will see that ur not showing him any attention and he will stop.





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you can't change anyone but yourself . so make some changes. only you hurt you not him
Remember that he is trying to get a rise out of you, stop giving him the satisfaction. I would ignore him completely.
Get some counselling.
umm let it go and be mature enough to have some self control.