Sunday, July 25, 2010

Did you know you can make someone mad by asking for christian advice in the marriage/divorce section?

Wow! I apologize for doing so. I am a Christian and proud of the fact. I didn't intend for my question to come across rude but I guess that it did. I just want to know the right thing to do based from the stand point of CHRIST. If it offended anyone, I apologize but you didn't have to reply.Did you know you can make someone mad by asking for christian advice in the marriage/divorce section?
No I didn't know that...thanks for the heads up.Did you know you can make someone mad by asking for christian advice in the marriage/divorce section?
Here's the thing. your bond with your spouse is validated and sanctionedby Christ. your Matronony was Holy.


Was your question along the same lines? or did you ask for sexual advice?


God gave us Sex as a way to express our love and the catalist in which to procreate. It is not dirty. it should be aproached with an open mind. Ok, I'll go look at the question...
Don't worry, some people just get offended irrationally. If they aren't Christians and you request Christian advice, it's shouldn't really be their concern anyway.





This is the right place to ask, don't try the religion/spirituality section, people are brutal over there and most people just hang out there to taunt and antagonize other groups.
I don't think you have to apologize. You didn't say it with malice, some people just like to be unhappy and think everyone should be like them...miserable. I see nothing wrong with wanting a christian view point.
GET OVER IT! Its the internet. People you will never meet or see again.





Get a hobby, lady
Good for you! Stand up for God because it is right to want Christian advice when in other sections and the question fits in that section. You just want answers from a Christian view point and not the worlds view.
it was a great question and you wanted some input. i would of too..some people are just mean and cant keep it to them selfs..that guy that wrote the nasty stuff when you asked your question before more then likely a very very lonely person and has nothing better to do.. good luck
honey, it takes all kinds to make the world go round. theres so many different types of people here, take it for what is worth. :) have a nice night
I'm a type of christain, too. But I don't understand why you think it's possible to make someone mad, but asking a chrisitan for advice on marriage.
Sometimes what happens is people read a question like that and think the asker somehow thinks 'Christian' advice is inherently better. So they think you are snotty. Add in all the 'Christian' hypocrites paraded in front of us on the news - preaching against sin in public but enjoying it in provate, and people flare up on religion pretty fast.








But honestly, advice for Chrsitians on this matter is the same as advice for anyone.





Confront. Believe actions, not words. Expect few to actually change, despite what they tell you about good intentions. Forgive (although that one never really happens), but demand accountability for deeds done. Communicate by asking and then listening.





You know, common sense.
wtf??? thats really wrong ! im sry ! dont we have the freedom of speech anymore??
Just ignore people like that. You received a lot of good answers too. There are always going to be jerks online. I have 2 sons that get a real kick out of trolling and it makes me sooo upset but it is just a game to a lot of people I guess.
Christians and any other organized religion will always be offended by something.


You should be the judge of what offends you and what doesn't instead of being told like the rest of the sheep.
Do not apologize for being a christian and wanting a christian point of view I say forget them they don't have to read or anwser the questions I'm tired of them thinking my point of view is wrong when it's right it isnt based on ';opinion'; it's based on FACTS!!!
At first I looked at your original question and respones to see how someone may be offended. I noticed that most of the answers you received were pretty supportive of the Christian ethics in trusting the Word of God through sound counsel. You must never apologize for being who you are in Christ. As we (yes I am a Christian as well) believe, the best way is Christ's way. I commend you for seeking Godly counsel and not acting abruptly from your emotions. Your question was not at all rude. Just keep this in mind: When you stand for Jesus Christ, you stand against everything and anyone who opposes his teachings. Naturally the devil will be offended. That's how you know that God is at work -anytime the enemy wants to belittle your need for Christian counsel. It simply means that you want to live right according to the way Jesus taught us. A non-believer will never get this and that's okay for him/her. But make no apology for what Jesus has taught us and that is to ';Ask and it shall be given, Seek and ye shall find, Knock and the door shall be open'; (paraphrased). I believe that God will supply your needs regarding your marriage. I stand in agreement in prayer with you. God Bless!
there are sick people out there I know what oyu mean
Ignore information that is not helpful or positive in some way and take the info that you believe is most efficient for your situation. But to answer your question, I think that you should first talk to your minister on the best way to approach the issue. Once you've gotten some leverage on that, you can then approach your husband. Is he also a Christian? If he is, he should be more than happy to explain himself and seek counseling through a minister. Everyone is imperfect and capable of making mistakes. From the bible's standpoint you as the innocent spouse can choose to abandon your marriage or forgive him and allow him to rebuild your trust for him. The bible does admonish us to not divorce. But, it also says that a man or woman should not defile the marriage bed. Adultery is a grave sin in God's eyes. So, it is ultimately up to you to work out your Christianity during this marital problem. I will be honest and say that being a devout Christian myself, if my husband did the same and was truly sorry I would probably give him another chance. It may sound stupid, but I feel that me keeping the covenant of marriage on my part sacred is being a good Christian. Yes, it would be painful and very hard for him to regain my trust, but ultimately I would receive a higher reward. I encourage you to pray about the situation and I will pray for you as well. As you know, God is able to mend all things!!
if you were asking for another religion for advice people probably would not have cared. but christians are singled out like that b/c others feel that they are wrong and instead of doing the whole tolerance thing that they preach about so much they blow up on christians. very hypocritical.
Unfortunately, you shouldn't have made anyone mad, but evidently you did. Being a Christian does not automatically get rid of life issues to make everything perfect. Christians and non-Chrisitans get cancer. Christians and non-Christians get deal with depression as well as face issues like infidelity, anger and abuse.





Yes, divorce can be an alternative for a married Christian woman. There are limitations and guidelines for such an even to occur. It is not God's ideal, but humans are not perfect creatures either.
Anything you debate as long as you can support it from the bible even if it appears to hurt someone, stand by it and let that person answer it. I know that the bible actually say that whatever a question a woman has, biblically, she has to ask her husband regardless how stupid, foolish the quiz is. Some men don't prefer to be asked something that they don't know about and they assume that you are tempting them. They sometimes thing that you know the answer and if they would answer wrongly they feel offended if you correct them. Such people are among the parable of the mastard seed that fell on the bush, they hear the word, but they ignore it. I have expressed the same idea to my ex-wife to be who is fighting all she can to see that we don't have go to our separate ways. I used the bible in reference to divorce. She uses it in reference that marriage is forever. I use it to explain that men are unsatisfied with one woman that why they go out and cheat, she comes up that men commits adultery and its not allowed by God. Solomon had 100 wives, Abraham slept with the maid, David did the same, she comes up that love only one woman. Do you think, I will be made to debate about christ even if things don't work out or even if she opposed with this bibilical arguments? I critized her bibilically that its a woman duty to cook, do laundry, clean, etc she turns back that man should be a woman's helper.


Don't apologise but continue to ask to know what you don't know about how modern and daily happening are refered into bibilical views.
Well would YOU think it rude if someone came on her asking the same question about Allah? Not EVERYONE here is a Christian and your ASSumptions that they are was rude. If you want to know about marriage based upon a Christian standpoint then you'd have to find either a Christian board or a relgious board. Marriage isn't about religion. Marriage is still (has been for thousands of years before Christianity) a civil union...
I hope you get the help you need.
Why should you apologize for asking a question? You have every right to ask for christian advice and shouldn't feel like you can't.





If someone finds it offensive, they shouldn't answer! I have seen some offensive questions on here and trust me, yours is not one of them.





You really should talk with your pastor, if he/she doesn't feel they can help you, they will guide you to someone who can.





Good Luck!
I would not worry about it! You have every right to ask for advice that is meaningful. If someone provides other, well some people abuse this system and don't care about the people on it. However, there are many good decent people who really try to help and who share your views. There is nothing wrong with saying you would especially like that perspective on the answer.
I think some of the people you could make mad by asking what day it is or what color the sky is. Poor unfortunate souls...
I don't understand why it is so hard just to believe in Christ the Savior and it makes people mad. Why are they mad? And why are they trying so hard to deny Jesus, when all they have to do is accept? This is another opportunity Jesus has made for you to be saved, don't deny him and repent, please I beg you all, and be saved.

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