Any advice for dealing with Christians during a messy divorce ?

My friend from school who I have known for years and years is an ultra Christian ( I am not - but a pagan married to a witch)





His wife --- also is/was an ultra I love Jesus christian --- had an affair while he was sick with cancer and announced it while he was in hospital after life saving surgery





I took over his farm for him for a while --- as he with cancer and in need of treatment wasn't able to do any work





--- I was unfortunately there (on his property ) when she chose to have the affair with the neighbor - This christian turned into everything I personally associate with the religion -- mean classicist judgmental and in active denial





I warned him ( cleaning up my language as best as possible) of course he didn't believe it at all because ';she was born again';





The ever present pastor -- came around to the farm and I told him she doesn't need a friggin pastor she needs medication





My friend seems to think the sun shines out of this guy's buttocks and continued to give bad advice and show poor judgment -- straight from the bible ---





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The obvious truths came out -- and now he is upset because he is forced into a position where he has to get a divorce








She is going to lose the farm they had and the divorce seems to be getting my friend down





I have made several mistakes in dealing with him I suspect ---





But --- we are still friends --





I should not have pointed out the Pastor was wrong and short sighted and not able to see what was in front of him





I should not have insisted that she was clearly having mental health issues from the stress and so on





But ---- that is now all done and nothing I can do about it at all





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So how should I be dealing with this guy - who I do want to be of some service to ?





It almost seems like he is from another world (Christian) at times and I have no idea what to do with him at all





What should I not do might be a better questionAny advice for dealing with Christians during a messy divorce ?
Seriously man....I'd stay as far away from that one as possible. It's a no win situation as I'm sure you've already figured out.Any advice for dealing with Christians during a messy divorce ?
He should be receiving counselingfrom a professional not from a member of clergy who has little or no training in such things. Stay with him, as a friend. Spiritual aadvisersare not necessarily the best advisers in other matters (marital problems, depression, etc).
The last thing you should be doing is judging your friend's beliefs and support network in this difficult time.





Why don't you just treat him with compassion like you would any other person going through a difficult time?
Sorry, but it is impossible to reason with anyone who believes in faith rather than fact. Wish I could help but you are talking to a wall.
I don't think he needs advice from a pagan.
This story is so sad. First off.. his wife was not a christian. A person who goes to church and claims to know god is not evidence of a christian follower.





Titus 1:16They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.





A woman of god... is also a woman of character and integrity, not to mention love. Love for ones spouse should not only be an overwhelming feeling of caring/nurturing but also one of loyalty and comittment, not only to her husband but to god as well. Second, you told the truth... and in doing so I think you did the right thing. Just be there for him during this most difficult time - as a friend he can count on.





Romans 2:13For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God's sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous.
First, Stop beating yourself up.





From what you have said, you have been a true friend, helping in his time of need, and trying to protect him and telling him the truth instead of ignoring it like everyone else. Remind him that, just because you don't go to his church doesn't mean that you are automatically lying to him. Invite him over for dinner or bowliing or a hockey game. Just be a friend is the best you can do.
You're a good friend. Just keep being that friend by being there for him. You may not be able to solve problems, but you can be a shoulder to lean on until he get through it. And maybe it's best not to bring in personal religious views.