Divorced dad just back in the ';dating scene'; need advice?

I have JC of 2 girls(4 and 6) that are my world and spend as much time as i can with them(3 or more days a week)I would like to find someone to marry again but my children will allways be #1.So here is my question is it better that i find/pursue someone who has children too or someone who does not?I would like to hear pros and cons for both from people.Divorced dad just back in the ';dating scene'; need advice?
I think it's best to pursue someone you have a connection with, someone who understands your committment to your children, and someone who will treat your children as her own. Whether or not they have children shouldn't include or exclude them from your decision making process.





Someone with children may have a better understanding of your committment to children. If they don't have kids, they should at least want kids. There are pros and cons to both really. It's going to be as much trial an error as it was with your first wife.





I've always wanted kids, and I have dated single fathers before. How I treated the kids was never an issue, it ended because of personal issues between the father and I. I would recommend going on a few dates, or date a few weeks, before introducing your children to the woman. Your girls are going through enough adjusting to the divorce without seeing you parade around a variety of women from one month to the next.Divorced dad just back in the ';dating scene'; need advice?
why don't you just be yourself, and not look for any particular ';kind'; of woman...w/children, w/out kids.....


Your in the ';dating'; scene again, that is for ';company'; of a woman to share yourself, and then your children with.....so don't ';look'; for any particular kind of woman, you may meet a woman who doesn't have kids, doesn't want any, and may like yours enough to develop a long term relationship with you, or a woman with kids and all ya'll get along, etc.....you ';look'; for one certain type, and you could miss out on meeting someone who was looking for the man you are, and you passed her by.......ya' know....
I think it could be either kind of person, one with kids or one without, it just depends on who you meet, i mean, you can have conflicts with either ya know?...if you meet one with kids, her kids may be jelous or she may try to get you to spend more time with them, that's drama, one without kids may not get along with them, or may want you all to herself, many things can happen you just gotta meet the right kind of woman, whomever you date, be honest with them and let them no your situation before hand so they have a heads up about it, see how they feel about it, explain to them your kids are important to you and make sure they understand that.....good luck
It doesn't matter if the person has or doesn't have kids of their own. Here is what I know from experience. Kids do not come first in a relationship. Not they are not a huge factor, but how can they flourish in a disfunctional invironment. Relationship first, the relationship (ie your love and devotion for each other) will make the best environment for the kids you have and will have!You can't fall in love with someone who doesn't love you with your kids and vis versa so that part will work itself out.
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